Comments on: Stepping Off Your Teen’s Emotional Rollercoaster http://www.amotherinisrael.com/2009/04/30/stepping-off-your-teens-emotional-rollercoaster/ A community about parenting, Judaism, and Israeli living. Sun, 14 Mar 2010 13:13:16 +0000 hourly 1 By: mominisrael http://www.amotherinisrael.com/2009/04/30/stepping-off-your-teens-emotional-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-7719 mominisrael Tue, 09 Jun 2009 08:11:47 +0000 http://www.amotherinisrael.com/?p=1285#comment-7719 Pat, thanks for visiting and leaving your comment. Children, like adults, suffer emotional pain. Teens feel things so intensely. We can empathize but they have to go through the process themselves. It really sounds like he has dealt with it and moved on. I also think that everyone's self-esteem takes a hit during puberty. Being in the popular group is not all it's cracked up to be. Pat, thanks for visiting and leaving your comment. Children, like adults, suffer emotional pain. Teens feel things so intensely. We can empathize but they have to go through the process themselves. It really sounds like he has dealt with it and moved on. I also think that everyone’s self-esteem takes a hit during puberty. Being in the popular group is not all it’s cracked up to be.

]]> By: pat http://www.amotherinisrael.com/2009/04/30/stepping-off-your-teens-emotional-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-7716 pat Mon, 08 Jun 2009 22:08:10 +0000 http://www.amotherinisrael.com/?p=1285#comment-7716 My 13 year old son seems to have lost his 'group' at school. He is a great kid, but not as high self-esteem as i think you need at that age. He is smart enough, funny and athletic but not in that top 'popular' group where many of his friends seem to have gone. I know he doens't want to talk to me about it but i am worried that being 'dumped' by some oh his buddies who are now 'cool' has really hurt him. He does have other friends too, so i guess i should be glad. But for awhile he really just backed off everything socially, and it seems to me it was like he had gone through a bad breakup like you would with a girl. I hate this for him. Is this normal? My 13 year old son seems to have lost his ‘group’ at school. He is a great kid, but not as high self-esteem as i think you need at that age. He is smart enough, funny and athletic but not in that top ‘popular’ group where many of his friends seem to have gone. I know he doens’t want to talk to me about it but i am worried that being ‘dumped’ by some oh his buddies who are now ‘cool’ has really hurt him. He does have other friends too, so i guess i should be glad. But for awhile he really just backed off everything socially, and it seems to me it was like he had gone through a bad breakup like you would with a girl. I hate this for him. Is this normal?

]]> By: triLcat http://www.amotherinisrael.com/2009/04/30/stepping-off-your-teens-emotional-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-7309 triLcat Sun, 03 May 2009 07:35:17 +0000 http://www.amotherinisrael.com/?p=1285#comment-7309 There is certainly a very delicate balance here. You don't want to feed your child's "emo" states, but it's important to note that sometimes these cries for attention are really cries for help that's needed. I wouldn't run out and get every teen who has a down day or two on prozac, but if your teen is down a lot of the time, doesn't participate in activities s/he used to enjoy, seems to lack interest in things, then it would probably be a good idea to get them help before they end up in a hospital with a belly full of pills (drawing from my own experience here). There is certainly a very delicate balance here. You don’t want to feed your child’s “emo” states, but it’s important to note that sometimes these cries for attention are really cries for help that’s needed.

I wouldn’t run out and get every teen who has a down day or two on prozac, but if your teen is down a lot of the time, doesn’t participate in activities s/he used to enjoy, seems to lack interest in things, then it would probably be a good idea to get them help before they end up in a hospital with a belly full of pills (drawing from my own experience here).

]]> By: mominisrael http://www.amotherinisrael.com/2009/04/30/stepping-off-your-teens-emotional-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-7304 mominisrael Sat, 02 May 2009 20:11:06 +0000 http://www.amotherinisrael.com/?p=1285#comment-7304 Ariela, it's great that your daughter is able to describe to you how she is feeling. As for ignoring, perhaps that was too strong a word. Ariela, it’s great that your daughter is able to describe to you how she is feeling. As for ignoring, perhaps that was too strong a word.

]]> By: mominisrael http://www.amotherinisrael.com/2009/04/30/stepping-off-your-teens-emotional-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-7303 mominisrael Sat, 02 May 2009 20:09:17 +0000 http://www.amotherinisrael.com/?p=1285#comment-7303 RM, good point! I think pointing out skills or traits that the teen has mastered or improved is best (without overdoing it--it has to be sincere). RM, good point! I think pointing out skills or traits that the teen has mastered or improved is best (without overdoing it–it has to be sincere).

]]> By: mominisrael http://www.amotherinisrael.com/2009/04/30/stepping-off-your-teens-emotional-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-7302 mominisrael Sat, 02 May 2009 20:07:59 +0000 http://www.amotherinisrael.com/?p=1285#comment-7302 Abbi, LOL! Abbi, LOL!

]]> By: mominisrael http://www.amotherinisrael.com/2009/04/30/stepping-off-your-teens-emotional-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-7301 mominisrael Sat, 02 May 2009 20:07:46 +0000 http://www.amotherinisrael.com/?p=1285#comment-7301 Adena, thank you so much for sharing this perspective. Adena, thank you so much for sharing this perspective.

]]> By: mominisrael http://www.amotherinisrael.com/2009/04/30/stepping-off-your-teens-emotional-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-7300 mominisrael Sat, 02 May 2009 20:07:15 +0000 http://www.amotherinisrael.com/?p=1285#comment-7300 Mark, it's not clear to me why she stopped. She still had the oldest in the family, right? Was the next one really difficult? Mark, it’s not clear to me why she stopped. She still had the oldest in the family, right? Was the next one really difficult?

]]> By: mominisrael http://www.amotherinisrael.com/2009/04/30/stepping-off-your-teens-emotional-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-7299 mominisrael Sat, 02 May 2009 20:05:27 +0000 http://www.amotherinisrael.com/?p=1285#comment-7299 Baila, if fighting is a good sign my kids are very happy. I wish we could get rid of that guilt. Baila, if fighting is a good sign my kids are very happy. I wish we could get rid of that guilt.

]]> By: mominisrael http://www.amotherinisrael.com/2009/04/30/stepping-off-your-teens-emotional-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-7298 mominisrael Sat, 02 May 2009 20:01:58 +0000 http://www.amotherinisrael.com/?p=1285#comment-7298 Tesyaa, my friend said that a teenage boy is one large hormone! My daughter is willing to let me buy her a bathing suit, without her being there. But she does not wear clothes with holes. She's almost 15. Tesyaa, my friend said that a teenage boy is one large hormone! My daughter is willing to let me buy her a bathing suit, without her being there. But she does not wear clothes with holes. She’s almost 15.

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