Last week I posted some comments about tzniut, and tagged some observant female bloggers with questions. Quite a few responded with a wide variety of opinions and experiences. Here are the ones I have seen so far:
Sephardi Lady at Orthonomics: She points out that whether or not one wears a sheitel (wig) and what type may have more to do with one’s “social standing” in the community more because of economics and less because of observance. She also provokes an interesting discussion in the comments section about frum girls and athletics.
She tagged Out of Town, who hadn’t posted in a while:
I think a lot of the ladies in my community would dress a little differently if they were taught otherwise. There are a lot of baalei tshuva here, who became baalei tshuva here, and don’t know any other community. I wouldn’t say they should be instructed to keep a yeshivish version of tzius, but a little longer sleeves wouldn’t hurt either. I makes me a little uncomfortable being around frum women in tank tops, b/c I think they are uncomfortable with me seeing them….
If I understand correctly, in her non-New York community (for those unfamiliar with the term “out-of-town”), there is actually more social pressure to dress less “modestly.” So not everyone in the Orthodox community is headed to the right so quickly. . .
As Frumhouse began to dress more modestly, she was warned that she should not begin covering her hair unless she was sure she was ready, because if she ever decided to stop people might assume that she stopped being observant entirely. That’s something that never occurred to me, and I’m sure the women I know who stopped covering their hair didn’t leave observance. Her blog has quickly earned quite a few readers with her lighthearted style. Unfortunately, recent health problems may force her to cut back and we wish her a refuah shlemah.
In my community, I haven’t found huge differences in observance between the middle-of-the-road Orthodox women who do and don’t cover their hair. In fact, I am constantly surprised by what some women choose to be careful about, or not.
Raanana Ramblings writes how while unwilling to wear skirts or cover her hair for one potential husband, she came halfway around the world for “the right one”! Unlike in my community, mothers in Raanana can come in pants to pick up their kids from the religious school. Dress standards for picking up kids from school is a big issue everywhere, I think.
Trilcat‘s husband did ask her to do a bit more than she had planned, and she still struggles with it a year into the marriage. In a follow-up post, she writes about her unusual religious background as the daughter of an army chaplain.
Safranit also recently made some changes to her dress. Check out what the “kiruv queens” said to her.
Raggedy Mom makes a statement about fashion (and definitely not a fashion statement, according to her):
I think that it’s sometimes easier to look ‘cute’ in pants for a casual look than a casual skirt-outfit. Or, rather, harder to look frumpy in the pants.
I agree with that one! Also, skirts calls more attention to your (non-stylish) shoes.
Pearlies of Wisdom answers the meme in the comments section of Raggedy Mom’s post. She also mentions the school pick-up issue, and how she often feels uncomfortable mixing with women who dress more strictly.
One more, this time from Lady Light.
My own answers.
Orieyenta has what to say too.
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