Let’s talk playdate etiquette.
- I was taught never to invite myself to someone’s house, but in Israel it’s okay for a kid to call and ask if she can come over.
- Playdates never start before 4 PM and usually later, even though school is usually over at 1 PM.
- Bamba or some other snack food is always served.
- Playdates often last till 6:30 PM, 7 or even later, in which case the guests are invited for dinner. In Israel, lunch is the main meal and dinner is bread, an omelet, chumus and salad.
A reader sent me a playdate question, but I have not experienced this. I usually need to ask how the kids played. I am turning the question over to you:
Parents have often told me after my children played at their house that my children were a pleasure to have over. I always took their comments at face value (especially since they said this at a later date, not necessarily right after the playdate), and was pleased to think that my children were nice and well mannered.
Recently it occurred to me to wonder if this is standard for parents to say to other parents, and that maybe I am expected to say this too. I do tell parents when their children are extra polite and pleasant, but too often that is not the case. I am polite to the children and the parents but I don’t generally tell them how wonderful the kids are, unless I honestly felt they were. My question is, am I expected to tell parents what a pleasure their children were when they play here? What have other parents experienced?
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