This is the second part of a series on marriage in the religious-Zionist community in Israel.
I: Dating Readiness
Meeting Your Match
Many young couples meet naturally in high school or afterward, in youth groups or university. But how are the others finding their partners? What is the role of parents, friends, teachers, rabbis, dating websites and traditional matchmakers? Which method works best today and what are the pros and cons of each approach?
One mother told me her son was set up by friends or rabbis from his yeshiva, and she was only vaguely aware that he was dating.
How did your child (or you) meet his or her spouse?
What questions are asked by matchmakers or the young people themselves about potential marriage partners?
Please share your experience in the comments or on your own blog.
Ariela left a comment on this topic on the last post:
My brother-in-law is chardal (charedi leumi) although he might describe himself as dati leumi (religious Zionist). Anyway, that should give you a good idea of his religious standing. He has 6 married kids. This is how some of them met:
His daughter was introduced to her husband by a friend of the family when she was 18. The friend was a counselor in the local youth movement (Ariel) who sometimes ate shabbat meals at their house .
The next daughter was introduced to her chatan (groom) by a girl friend from high school. The chatan is a brother-in-law of the friend from high school.
The oldest son was never officially introduced to his wife on a date. She went to nursing school with his sister and they got to know each other when the sister brought her home to study.
The last son to be married was set up by his brother-in-law (sister’s husband). The Kallah did her national service (sherut leumi) at the sister’s yishuv. The sister’s husband thought it might work out so he gave him her number.
I think the common theme here is being set up by friends and relatives.