Comments on: Why Can’t Breastfeeding Mothers Just Be Nice?

By: Observer

Observer — Thu, 07 Jun 2012 03:21:59 +0000

Now that I think about it, I can’t imagine any restaurant taking to well to such stunts. And, you are definitely right about mothers not setting their babies off. But, I must admit that I doubt that someone who thinks that such an idea is clever is having too many conversations that start with someone saying to him “Honey let’s” anything, much less “Honey, let’s go out to dinner.”

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By: Shoshanna

Shoshanna — Thu, 07 Jun 2012 02:51:35 +0000

Oh, I don’t believe a word of it. Can you imagine the conversation:
“Honey, let’s go out to dinner tonight”
“Sure! Let me just first grab my camera so I can snap pics of the nursing moms”

And nursing moms: can you picture a scenario where you would abruptly stop feeding your infant, unleashing a wave of blood curdling screams, because you saw a camera flash in your general direction?

It’s okay to want to nourish your CHILD on demand. But please don’t feed the trolls.

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By: Observer

Observer — Thu, 07 Jun 2012 01:54:13 +0000

Oh, please. In the real world, the amount of “boob’ uncovered by the typical nursing mother is a whole lot less than the normal amount exposed by lots of young women who are just going out. So please don’t expect anyone to believe that this is about modesty or propriety.

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By: Hannah Katsman

Hannah Katsman — Wed, 06 Jun 2012 12:05:44 +0000

Michael, interesting way to ensure that proper standards are upheld. Do you take pictures of everyone who dresses immodestly, or only breastfeeding women?

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By: Michael Me

Michael Me — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 23:05:10 +0000

I am one who is offended at this sight. If I want to see boobs with my meal, I will go to Hooter’s. I found a great way to stop it. take your camera to the eating establishment. and start snapping photos. you don’t even have to snap them in the her direction. For some reason the breasts disappear!

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By: kr

kr — Wed, 16 May 2012 19:32:25 +0000

Hilarious. My yekke in-laws were a lot like that when I was a BF-ing mom, in the 90′s. I attributed it to the fact that (1) they are yekkes. If you’re not there when lunch is on the table, you have clearly upended the order of the universe, and deserve to lose your chance at a meal. (2) a bit more seriously, and sadly, my m-i-l was told not to nurse when her children were born (in the ’50′s) and I can’t help but think that contributed somewhat to her lack of enthusiasm and empathy.

On my side of the family, once when I was nursing my 11-month old baby, my crusty Hungarische aunt, well into her 80′s, made some critical remark about the scandalousness of allowing him to have his way with my bod at that late age, I said something along the lines of “what’s the matter, didn’t you get enough when you had the chance?” It was not a nice thing to say, but I think she understood it as a joke and a blowing-off of her critical comment, so all ended well.

Last comment – why isn’t your husband doing more to intercede between you and your m-i-l? That’s his job!

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By: Bat Mitzvah

Bat Mitzvah — Wed, 16 May 2012 02:48:18 +0000

I think people can just do their thing and not bother other people.

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By: Rick

Rick — Wed, 09 May 2012 12:01:12 +0000

I can’t believe that women would agree with this. There is nothing wrong with a woman breastfeeding, public or private space, nothing nothing wrong!

I find politics much more offensive, I find people starving to death much more offensive I find that non jews are segregated from society in Israel much more offensive, not giving the seat to a woman on the bus very offensive, I could continue, but is hard to be a minority and talk to a wall.

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By: Tikunolam2pt0

Tikunolam2pt0 — Tue, 08 May 2012 14:07:50 +0000

How irritating that you failed to address anything I said. My anger? If you were using a bottle to feed your foster daughter and some woman averted her eyes in order to cope with the sight of you, well, what would you call it? A mother’s nurturing instinct is also a part of her womanhood. A human’s instinct(though clearly not yours) to care for children who have no mother able to care for them is part of humanity and my womanhood. It is part of my physiology just as much as breastfeeding my bio children was part of my physiology. The response to feed a hungry infant is part of all healthy humans’ physiology.
You are preaching to the choir with regards to breastfeeding. My bio children were breastfed as were Dovbear’s. To criticize and shun women responding to their basic healthy physiology to bottle feed a hungry infant in their care when that child is not their biological child, just as one example, is misogynistic. Period. To keep repeating the research is unnecessary. Not all women can breastfeed their children. Period. To shun their ways of nurturing their children is in no way commendable and is certainly misogynistic.
Promoting your book while signing your name with a bunch of letters is beyond pretentious. Who even signs their name that way? I too have my Ph.D. I have never seem someone with a Ph.D. Have the need to put their bachelors degree and masters degree after their name unless somehow they feel their ideas will be given more weight if they add more letters after their name.
Try responding to what I have actually said. Repeating what you have said over and over again is a politicians way out, not a way to promote discussion.
By reading your latest comment I have to wonder if you even bothered to read mine at all.
Clearly I bothered comment after my initial instinct told me it would be a waste of my time. Perhaps I shouldn’t have wasted my time trying to open your eyes to how your comments could be perceived by so many women out there who are fully aware of the benefits of breastfeeding.
Honestly, I don’t think you even read Dovbear’s thoughts either. He, in no way, denigrated breastfeeding. I will repeat, his kids were all breastfed for at least a year. What he may not have made clear but I know it to be true, it was with his full support. What he believes is something that should not be done in public does not negate his feelings about breastfeeding. If you bothered to read what he said, his own wife feels that breastfeeding should be done in private.
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By: Zippy

Zippy — Mon, 07 May 2012 00:04:15 +0000

I have nursed two children and am now pregnant with my third with every intention of nursing this one as well. Neither of my children were “peaceful” nursers and at times would flail around and knock off whatever cover i had on. for my own modesty’s sake i preferred to remain covered and was never able to master the art of nursing “discreetly”. That being said, i also nursed in many places and situations an thankfully never faced any discrimination of any sort. in fact i found most people either did not notice or were mostly supportive of my choice to BF. I am also lucky enough to be in a place where there is a great deal of access to “nursing rooms” which makes life so much easier! Many women i know BF in public and rarely if ever get called on it, maybe Northeastern US is just a very accepting place to BF publicly. I have nursed on planes, buses and trains both in the US and Israel, I have nursed in the dressing room at JCpenney (one of the staff saw me sitting on the floor and asked if i would prefer using the handicapped dressing room which had seating and told me she would make sure no one bothered me while i was there!) I have nursed sitting on the floor of Build a Bear while my older daughter stuffed her bear. I have also seen women nurse almost everywhere and so discreetly i almost didn’t notice. The truth is most people who complain about it probably wouldn’t actually realize that someone was nursing unless it was pointed out to them or they were watching like a hawk!~

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