Does Tzipi Hotovely Represent Religious Zionist Women?

Tzipi Hotovely

32-year-old Likud member Tzipi Hotovely is Chairwoman of the Knesset Committee for the Advancement of Women. In honor of International Women's Day, Haaretz asked Hotovely whether Women's Day was a happy day for Israeli women. Here is part of the interview, but I recommend reading the whole thing. Do you yourself feel that a glass ceiling gets in your way? No. For women just setting out and dividing time between personal and public life, the situation is more complicated. Women who reached the Knesset when their children were grown are more similar to the men. When I become a mother I'll have to determine my limits at work. It's an all-encompassing occupation, and men have fewer … [Read more...]

Empathy, Mother-Guilt, Shabbat, Career Skills, Anger, and Idleness

RaggedyMom showed me this CNN story about developing children's social maturity. In a  fourteen-year study, the preschool children of mothers who described a picture using emotional language showed more empathy and better social skills when they got older. It is important to encourage children to think about others' feelings from a young age. However, I was dismayed by the first line of the article: Mothers often get blamed for the way their children turn out, and a new study gives additional weight to that accusation. Let's stop blaming mothers, who make mistakes like everyone else. Most of the time they are acting in a way prescribed by our culture, which, the last I heard, is … [Read more...]

Tips on Staying Home and Staying Sane

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"I don't want to put my baby in daycare, but I'm worried that I will go crazy if I stay home all day. " How is it possible to stay home with your baby and not end up in the loony bin? Below I list the strategies that helped me the most. I believe they can be helpful for employed mothers, and fathers too. They are ways of coping with the intense demands of parenting,and balancing your needs with the needs of your family. When my oldest was born I decided to stay home with him, because I believed it to be the best thing for my him. And I set out to make it the best thing for me too. Here are some things that I did: Find a community. I looked for friends with babies as soon as mine was … [Read more...]

Mothering and the Teaching Profession

I recently met a lawyer who quit her job after the birth of her third baby. If she had to do it again she told me she would become a teacher, despite the low salary and status. She wants a profession that allows her to spend time with her children. There is a lot of talk of making teachers more "professional" by having them work longer hours and giving them more responsibility. Yet many women choose teaching because they see it as a way to combine career and family. It's still a big commitment; they answer phone calls from parents and must take enrichment courses. They prepare for class and attend meetings. But teaching is still much more family-friendly than law or high-tech. You get to … [Read more...]