Today I spoke to her.

Today we were invited to gan to shop in a store the kids had set up. My 3yo came with me this time. I bought a challah cover my son had decorated, and two cookies. The money went to tzedaka.

I bravely approached this mother with my prepared speech. I had only seen her once before at the Chanukah party.

I told her that I was disturbed very much by something–her very nice metapelet (babysitter) leaves that cute baby at home when she picks up the son from gan. She nodded and did not act surprised. I said that it concerned me because it was against the law, and in the last few months three children were injured in fires when their parents left them alone. One died. She heard me out and thanked me, twice. I avoided her for the rest of the morning. Now we’ll see what happens.

Shabbat shalom!


  1. at least you tried…

  2. I can’t imagine she’ll be upset; hopefully, she’ll even listen! I don’t know if I would have the guts to tell someone that… good for you.

  3. You’re braver than I am. I have managed to mention to a friend that I would feel better if she put her 3 year in a car seat, even if it was a short ride, and she actually listened.
    I’m still shuddering over the neighbor who held her son in her lap (front seat) on the way to his brit. The father lets the older kids (2,4,6) sit on his lap while he drives.

  4. mominisrael says

    Thanks for the moral support. I appreciate it.
    Anon–good for you for speaking up. We have a friend who is an anesthesiologist, and he yells at anybody he sees with a kid out of a carseat: “I don’t want to see you in my operating room!!”
    Ugh about the other family.