Yiska visited a mall in Modiin with her young baby. Here is her story:I was at the mall this morning with my 3-week-old daughter. While modestly nursing her, a security guard approached me and told me I shouldn't nurse in public, and that there is a changing room which I should use, "so everyone … [Read more...]
Trusting our children
May 11, 2008 by
One of the most valuable lessons I learned as a mother was about relinquishing control."Training" my children to do things before they were developmentally ready wasted time and emotional energy. How I regret those power struggles.Eventually I realized that there were many things I didn't need to … [Read more...]
FLYing and landing
January 17, 2008 by
I discovered Flylady when I was pregnant with my fifth child. She took the best of SHE, imbued it with her own unique style and transferred it from a filebox to the internet.Flylady immediately got rid of SHE's biggest problem. She says that the index cards made you feel guilty, and guilt keeps you … [Read more...]
The Truth about Nursing in the Ezrat Nashim
September 18, 2007 by
Which of the following situations is disturbing, distracting, or inappropriate in shul? Cracking open a bag of Bamba for a toddler, who proceeds to distribute the contents around the shul Hansel and Gretel style. Shoving chairs right and left while pushing a monster stroller through the … [Read more...]
Nursing in the Negev, or Nursing in the toilet?
September 16, 2007 by
When I received an email from a distressed mother, criticized for nursing in shul, I assumed she lived in the US. Israelis tend to respect nursing mothers. But when I asked for permission to post, the mother said I should call her "Nursing in the Negev." Nursing in the Negev (NN) brought her baby … [Read more...]
Minimizing children’s pain
August 22, 2007 by
Treppenwitz posts about the common Hebrew expression used by parents when kids have minor scrapes:"Lo kara kloom," or "It's nothing." Since his blog decided to eat up my comments, I'm responding here."Lo kara kloom" is a way of comforting a child and sending him the messsage that everything is okay. … [Read more...]
Rabbi: These are things that are not learned at home
April 19, 2007 by
Update: It seems that quite a discussion is going on with the rabbi in the comments section on Moreshet, for those who read Hebrew.A commenter on my previous post drew my attention to a responsum from the Orthodox website Moreshet. Here is my translation:Love and Warmth for a ChildShalom to the … [Read more...]
New Book on Babies and Sleep
March 28, 2007 by
I have written quite a few posts on the benefits of cosleeping and the negative effects of allowing babies to cry. James McKenna, PhD., probably the foremost researcher on the topic of mother-infant cosleeping, has written Sleeping with Your Baby: A Parent's Guide to Co-Sleeping. In this interview … [Read more...]
Lazy mothering
March 13, 2007 by
I once had a neighbor whose children didn't like to take medicine, so she forced it down. If they threw up, she gave it again "so they would learn." It didn't matter whether it was a life-saving medication or a painkiller. Apart from my oldest, who stopped screaming at the excitement of seeing a … [Read more...]
Dads Who Don’t Change Diapers
March 1, 2007 by
Recently, while I was out with a group of women friends, "G" got a call on her cell phone. She told the caller that she was on her way. It turns out that her grandson needed a change, and her daughter had gone to a concert with friends. Her son-in-law doesn't change diapers. When one of the other … [Read more...]
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